8 Things She Wants More Than a Big P***s

Women don't care about your measurements—as long as you have these essential skills.

1. To be surprised.
As cliché as flowers and chocolate may seem, every woman secretly wants her guy to surprise her with the occasional thoughtful gesture. And it's not because she's dying for a fresh bouquet for her coffee table—it's what your effort conveys to her that matters. But some Naija babes will ask you if they are  goats that you are giving them flower.

2. An enthusiastic student.
When she goes down on you, your only thought is "Score!" But for her, receiving pleasure can be a little stressful. An eager partner—someone who wants to learn exactly what gets her off—can help alleviate that anxiety. "Most women have their orgasms clitorally, not vaginally.So a guy who knows how and where to touch her—and who shows enthusiasm for doing that—is important.

3. To be shown off.
It's one thing to shower her with attention in the bedroom. It's another to do so in front of your friends. When you publicly praise her, "she feels beautiful and special."Boosting her self-esteem is a bigger, more powerful feeling than just being filled up by a big p***s.

4. Cuddle time.
In a British survey of 2,000 women, "spontaneous cuddling" emerged as the number one way to boost a woman's spirits—even more so than a spa day or chocolate.When you cuddle outside the bedroom, they feel genuinely loved and cared for.That sense of security can play a critical role in sexual attraction.

5. Smooch sessions.
Sure, you started smooching in the sixth grade—but this is one elementary skill you shouldn't forget. "Kissing gives women the sense that passion is happening. Without it, women can think, 'Oh, this is mechanical. He's just not that into me—he just needs to get off.Locking lips, in and out of the bedroom, shows that you want her way more than just whipping out the big guy does.

6. To feel lustful.
Your girlfriend or wife knows you want to have sex. What she really wants: for you to make her crave it just as much. "Women are almost always aware that men want it more than they do.That can be a bit of a turn-off. It gives the woman no room to want you." But if you figure out how to tap into her arousal—rather than just clueing her into yours—her desire to hit the sack will be insatiable.

7. Your attention.
If your partner doesn't feel heard, your connection will be weak—in and out of the sack. "Every time you multitask while you're talking, you put chips into her confidence. Over time, that can make her feel disconnected,Show her that she's important, and that your conversations are important.

8. Eye contact.
Don't worry about awkwardness. Locking eyes is about awareness—acknowledging that you're not in bed alone. "A lot of men are disconnected during sex,Making eye contact shows you're present." And that can enhance her sense of connection, helping her feel more at ease between the sheets.